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The day I got arrested was, to this point, the darkest day of my life! I never thought this accusation would actually go anywhere…I knew I didn’t do anything wrong. It had been what seemed like a long time since I was interrogated by the Prosecutor. Yet – I had just been arrested, been bailed out of jail, and met with a criminal defense attorney. These are all things I never would have predicted. As I mentioned before – I wasn’t even sure if this attorney was actually going to be any help. I seemed like more of a bother to him, than an important case he was going to focus on. But I had never been in this situation. In fact, I don’t think I have ever even known anyone else who has been in this situation – so I thought there was nowhere to turn for advice!
After leaving the lawyer’s office I didn’t know what to do next. I knew the “news” of my arrest was going to get out quickly – so I thought I should make sure I tell those closest to me personally. I drove to work first, and told my co-workers and friends what had happened. I knew they knew my character, and would be behind me in this. Their support was more than I could have even hoped for. Hugs – crying – disbelief. And I felt a little better, if that is even possible, just knowing that this wasn’t a secret and that maybe I would have supporters to help me get through this. After I left work…it hit me. My father… He did not know any of this. When I was first told of the allegations, I was sure the truth would be evident to the investigators and noting would come of it, so I didn’t want to worry my father. But, now that I had been arrested – he had to know. But, how do you tell your father this kind of thing? I couldn’t do it! There is no way you can call your father and say “Dad, I was just arrested – for child molestation”. I couldn’t make that call. That night, when my mom returned home, she made the call for me. This turned out to be the best call – and literally changed the path of my story for the better.
My Dad is an extremely smart, successful and intelligent man. He has many contacts through his work. One of them happens to be friends with a nationally renowned legal expert. When my father told his friend what was happening, he put him in touch with this expert immediately. The information he gave to my father was literally invaluable. Here is a synopsis of his advice:
- A local lawyer is not what you needed for this kind of charge. He said this charge is literally a life or death situation, and the best chance is with a nationally known expert in this kind of case.
- He said to personally meet with, and interview several of the top attorneys, and choose who you feel most comfortable with. He provided a list of four experts in the immediate area, as well as one national expert on these cases.
- In the meeting with the attorneys, he advised the following questions were critically important to consider:
- Is the attorney a member f the National Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers (NACDL)?
- What is their track record in cases like this?
- Who will be the actual attorney leading the case?
- Who will prepare the case for trial and argue in court?
- How many others will work on the case, who are they, and what is their expertise?
- How will you help with non-legal matters like preventing damaging publicity? He said this can be one of the most important points because history proves that people change what they know and believe when they read and hear things in the news, and are even less likely to continue to be supportive if the case becomes controversial. He said that often once strong supporters will change their minds once a story appears in the media, and even once the truth comes out they never return as friends.
- Finally – he advised that Mr. Murphy’s plan to seek a bail reduction hearing was completely inappropriate given the nature of the charges. He said that a bail reduction hearing would bring the case publicly into a court room, and in front of the media…and the goal of any attorney right now should be to keep the publicity around the case to a minimum until they can do their own investigation. This advice alone convinced me that Mr. Murphy was the not the lawyer for me.
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